Helloooo passive aggression

[Jane]

Lately I've been catching myself doing a funny (and sad) little thing - when something or someone makes me angry, I start thinking "wait until I write this down about you / it". I guess it's always easier to be passive-aggressive rather than coming right out and saying something to someone's face. Then again, I don't relish doing that either not because I'm being a chicken but just because I am not 100% sure if I am right in what I am saying. Hell, what am I saying? I can NEVER be 100% sure that I am right in what I am saying, so of course I would always worry if my 1+% might indeed prove me wrong one day. So rather than being openly vicious, I take it out on paper and be done with it. Only, I have not done so. No angrily writing about someone I dislike or something that I dislike is being done. Nada. So what does that mean? Do I really need to think about it now to get over it? And is that passive aggression or merely passive passivity?

[Jane]

I enjoyed the tea, let's do it again soon.

[Carole Noble]

We'll have to discuss this when we next have tea. I don't think that it's passive aggression unless you do something that impacts the person directly - like when you doing something kind of mean as a way of getting back at the person - something that has no relation to the issue that's bothering you - so even if the person recognizes that you are being intentionally not nice, they may have no idea why. I can't imagine that you would ever being like that. ( I might - unless I caught my self because I don't want to be that kind of person.) Writing could be kind of healthy - but if the writing is published - well that's another story. I used to write that kind of stuff but I never kept it - kept ripping up pages just in case someone came across my angry ramblings. I'm not sure that it helped anything though - but maybe. I have other thoughts which can wait until we discuss.